from a loud, broken-down tour bus because that was the only time I could call. There might be days when the only time we talk is when I call you at 2 a.m. Well, I work in the industry, my boyfriend is in a band, and I have seen multiple relationships flourish and flounder among my peers. What about a set of rules for musicians in relationships, or is it assumed that they should be able to do what they want – you know, since they are “the talent”? On one hand, you should never shit where you eat right?And if your opinion hasn’t been asked for, you shouldn’t be flinging it like free candy.But those of us lucky enough to somehow be in a relationship know that it takes a special kind of grace for a lady (and let’s face it, that list is written by a dude dictating rules to a lady) to be in a relationship with a guitarist: one who’s willing to overlook your overactive enthusiasm for guitar, not overlook gross exaggerations in personal entitlement.
A few years ago, I had to swear off dating musicians. unless he’s being financially supported by Mommy and Daddy. Twenty-something and thirty-something men who don’t pay their own bills have a warped view of reality. To this day I can still remember an ex-boyfriend’s most ardent groupie: she once showed up at his apartment unannounced while I was over because she was “just in the neighborhood.” He thought she was ridiculous, but he had to be polite to her because she was such a major fan.Now, giving that I love to write, and like most people my age, I feel like what I have to say is valid, I figured I’d respond to a certain viral picture that has been all over my social networks lately.A lot of my friends are professional musicians, or are at least trying to be.Rules For Dating A Guitarist By Guitars all over the house = super-expensive home decor. We love you very much, it’s just that sometimes we can’t help talking about the differences between different Ibanez Edge tremolo models. We haven’t liked a new Metallica song since 1988 (okay, maybe 1991 if we’ve had a few beers) but under no circumstances shall we miss a tour. You see, the original Edge and the Lo Pro both have replaceable knife edge inserts, and while the Lo Pro is certainly more comfortable against the picking hand, the original Edge seems better balanced and more suited to pulling off super-cool tricks like flutters. We’re going to use the steering wheel as a drum kit. But it also implies that the musician’s significant other (“SO”) is trying to dictate how a band operates or what they do.Secondly, it assumes that the SO’s opinion is not warranted or important.In fact, the life of a musician can make relationships hard.Nonetheless, you can work to make your relationship better and be the best partner you can be to him or her, though don't forget to expect the same in return.This way, I'll still talk to other people, but mentally I'm like, 2. and swing by your place, we hang out for a few hours, and then you have to be up at 8 a.m.