Evaluating my own reactivity throughout the relationship. Honestly, it is pretty ridiculous and mildly exhausting, but hell if I am not learning interesting things about myself every single day. Every part of me when I meet someone new wants to tuck a few things away that make me less than stellar. I was just absolutely me, because that person was going to come out anyway. YOU need to handle you at your worst and be strong enough to step away, ask for time, talk to a friend or professional if you can't control the words that come out of your mouth.So in the name of science (and all things ridiculous) I am going to share this case study with you. Plus, I want you to know that even people who have a ton of knowledge about dating and love, who talk about this stuff all day, every day, are human. We all have our own quirks, ways that we do things, the way we like things, personality traits, etc. Why this worked: I didn't vomit out my life story and all of my problems the first couple times we met, that is just sabotage. We all have moments -- God knows I have had a few, but I have learned to apologize, learn from them and then figure out what even provoked them in the first place so I can prevent them in the future.After putting in work getting to know someone and spending time with them, you want to believe that your current boo could be your “happily ever after” guy — not just a distraction or someone taking up space. Even 6 months into a relationship, it’s easy to get very comfortable and take each other for granted.If you want to make sure you’re on the right track, or spinning your wheels, here are some things to take inventory of to make sure you’re headed in the right direction and not wasting your precious time. As day-to-day life starts to take over, your attention may shift from your partner to work, bills, and other life challenges that can destroy your relationship if you’re not handling those issues as a couple.
Naturally, I want to be crushing it on all levels, all the time, since I know a ton about how this relationship stuff "should" work! Now those all sounded indie movie cute, so let me also get real here. But no matter what happened in the first place, we are 100 percent responsible for our actions.
Most people naturally dress and behave to impress in the beginning.
As you go, however, it is important to see one another accurately and get to know one another on a deeper level.
By the time you have dated for a couple months, you’ve gotten a good feel for each other and have gone on a series of romantic dates.
This is the ideal time to dig deeper, evaluating your relationship, your sweetheart and yourself.