My husband, Tim’s father, died three years ago, and I think Tim is looking for a father figure. What could a 40-year-old man have in common with a teenager? Should I keep quiet and pray it ends soon or speak up?
Tim starts college this fall, and I am hoping he’ll find a more appropriate boyfriend there. — Name withheld I completely understand your angst about this — who would want her son in the arms of a “predator”?
This girl you have taken on a first date is your time to impress her as well as hers to impress you.
(Cleveland had been friends with Folsom’s father, who had been killed when she was only 10 — talk about a father figure!In regards to category #1—“It’s just a term”—I have occasionally heard of moms saying that they have a “date” with their sons.I don’t think it’s as common, but it does happen, although most “mom-son” dates I’ve encountered revolve around something fairly innocuous, like going to the Lego Store together or going to see a movie.Civilities is a new column in The Washington Post covering LGBT and straight etiquette.Dear Civilities: My 19-year-old son (I’ll call him “Tim”) just came out to me.Always remember that first impressions last a life time!I have raised you as courteous and polite young men and that should carry in to your romantic life as you start to venture in to it.Dads spending time with their daughters is a vitally important act—hanging out with my daughter is literally my favorite thing in the whole wide world.That said, when people defend the notion of “daddy-daughter dates,” in my experience, their counter-arguments generally fall into one of two categories: And, let’s say, for sake of argument, that both of those statements are true.While I know some fathers and daughters who have similarly average outings, I’ve also seen many, many “daddy-daughter dates” that involve the dad and daughter dressing up in their best and actually going on a “faux-date”—he brings her flowers, tells her she’s beautiful, they go out to a fancy dinner, maybe dancing.In fact, they have whole “daddy-daughter dances” that are structured in the exact same format as high school dances.